tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23254871890522524122024-03-12T19:26:36.402-07:00Zebra Tales by Helen WillisWhat color is love?Helen Willishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07268925587150807113noreply@blogger.comBlogger121125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2325487189052252412.post-76132719644182414222023-09-28T17:16:00.004-07:002023-09-28T17:16:45.926-07:00How You Can Incorporate Different Cultures into Your Blended Family<p style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; orphans: 2; widows: 2;">
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<p style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; orphans: 2; widows: 2;"></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><br /><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj6ERM0CamAjysJ9-iGDuTTSQU4XiwMRvHNGZNQb813vuLHgDr1Agq1ga4MrusdeL9qAhBdYX-sre0T3z7ArNQWEutvaGduhtGxRVSpaNLOe_wlhe_cxPtEOWiYe6GLuWECNspmMBP_PCMtyHszLqxqrcMwCT5J8C7OCLRUVfGBfcFQVDZk-qyTQWjB3s7L/s5974/pexels-kindel-media-7978854.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="3983" data-original-width="5974" height="330" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj6ERM0CamAjysJ9-iGDuTTSQU4XiwMRvHNGZNQb813vuLHgDr1Agq1ga4MrusdeL9qAhBdYX-sre0T3z7ArNQWEutvaGduhtGxRVSpaNLOe_wlhe_cxPtEOWiYe6GLuWECNspmMBP_PCMtyHszLqxqrcMwCT5J8C7OCLRUVfGBfcFQVDZk-qyTQWjB3s7L/w496-h330/pexels-kindel-media-7978854.jpg" width="496" /></a></div><p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">Blended
families, which include parents, children, and step-siblings from
previous relationships, can be a wonderful way to create a larger,
loving family unit. However, blending cultures can also present a
unique set of challenges. When two or more cultures come together,
it's important to find ways to honor and incorporate each culture to
create a harmonious and inclusive family environment. Here are some
tips on how to incorporate different cultures into your blended
family:</p>
<ol>
<li><p style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><span face="Bahnschrift, sans-serif">Learn
about each other's cultures</span></p>
</li></ol>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><span face="Bahnschrift, sans-serif">The
first step in incorporating different cultures into a blended family
is to learn about each other's cultural backgrounds. This can include
language, food, customs, and traditions. Take the time to ask
questions, share stories, and learn about each other's cultural
values and beliefs. This will help to create a deeper understanding
and appreciation for each other's backgrounds.</span></p>
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<li><p style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><span face="Bahnschrift, sans-serif">Celebrate
holidays and traditions</span></p>
</li></ol>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><span face="Bahnschrift, sans-serif">One
of the best ways to incorporate different cultures into a blended
family is to celebrate holidays and traditions from each culture.
This can include cooking traditional foods, decorating the house, and
participating in cultural celebrations. Celebrating each other's
traditions will help everyone feel included and appreciated.</span></p>
<ol start="3">
<li><p style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><span face="Bahnschrift, sans-serif">Create
new traditions</span></p>
</li></ol>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><span face="Bahnschrift, sans-serif">In
addition to celebrating existing traditions, creating new ones can be
a great way to incorporate different cultures into a blended family.
This can include creating a new holiday or celebration that combines
elements from each culture. For example, if one parent comes from a
Jewish background and the other from a Christian background, the
family can create a new tradition of lighting a menorah and a
Christmas tree together.</span></p>
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<li><p style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><span face="Bahnschrift, sans-serif">Embrace
diversity</span></p>
</li></ol>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><span face="Bahnschrift, sans-serif">Blending
cultures means embracing diversity and accepting differences. This
can include embracing different languages, religions, and customs.
Encourage family members to ask questions and be curious about each
other's cultures. This will help to create a sense of understanding
and respect.</span></p>
<ol start="5">
<li><p style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><span face="Bahnschrift, sans-serif">Communicate
openly</span></p>
</li></ol>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><span face="Bahnschrift, sans-serif">Effective
communication is crucial in any blended family, but especially when
blending cultures. Make sure everyone has a chance to express their
opinions, concerns, and feelings. This will help to avoid
misunderstandings and conflicts.</span></p>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><span face="Bahnschrift, sans-serif">In
summary, incorporating different cultures into a blended family
can be challenging, but it's also an opportunity to create a rich and
diverse family environment. By learning about each other's cultures,
celebrating holidays and traditions, creating new traditions,
embracing diversity, and communicating openly, blended families can
create a loving and inclusive family unit that honors everyone's
cultural background.</span></p>
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</p><br /><p></p>Helen Willishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07268925587150807113noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2325487189052252412.post-37732054338092165332023-09-28T17:06:00.002-07:002023-09-28T17:06:28.960-07:005 Resources for Non-Black Parents Raising Black Children<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgXxGMTUz64M1cRlYHzLelOYYqqGjWNijk1Sc2yapBF3k1Y6QF3esYFqgboSXGF9No8gttFRon7iU3cGiFm_EDBInixEhhgsXBHF9G8S3g5bdflkiFtQkadO06N_Cnd2V19boZInR7WtoCTTJ9xnszArE_GD0XcjMTllMT2pPHYeBkgrDvNwO5_FGzSNCwJ/s4044/pexels-kindel-media-7978851.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2696" data-original-width="4044" height="311" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgXxGMTUz64M1cRlYHzLelOYYqqGjWNijk1Sc2yapBF3k1Y6QF3esYFqgboSXGF9No8gttFRon7iU3cGiFm_EDBInixEhhgsXBHF9G8S3g5bdflkiFtQkadO06N_Cnd2V19boZInR7WtoCTTJ9xnszArE_GD0XcjMTllMT2pPHYeBkgrDvNwO5_FGzSNCwJ/w467-h311/pexels-kindel-media-7978851.jpg" width="467" /></a></div><p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">Adopting or raising a Black child as a
non-Black parent comes with unique challenges, particularly in a
society where systemic racism and discrimination against Black people
are still prevalent. Non-Black parents must navigate how to support
their child's racial identity, provide them with an inclusive
environment, and equip themselves with the tools and resources needed
to address racism and discrimination. Here are some resources that
can be helpful for non-Black parents of Black children:</p>
<ol>
<li><p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">Books and articles:</p>
</li></ol>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">Reading books and articles written by
Black authors can help non-Black parents better understand their
child's experiences and the issues they may face. Some recommended
reads include "Raising White Kids: Bringing Up Children in a
Racially Unjust America" by Jennifer Harvey, "Why Are All
the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria?" by Beverly
Tatum, and "Parenting for Social Justice" by Theresa
Martinez.</p>
<ol start="2">
<li><p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">Cultural competency training:</p>
</li></ol>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">Cultural competency training can
provide non-Black parents with a better understanding of cultural
differences and the experiences of Black people in America. Some
organizations, such as the National Conference for Community and
Justice and Teaching Tolerance, offer online courses and workshops on
cultural competency.</p>
<ol start="3">
<li><p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">Support groups:</p>
</li></ol>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">Joining a support group for non-Black
parents of Black children can provide a safe space to share
experiences and concerns with others who may be facing similar
challenges. Some organizations, such as Transracial Adoption and
Parenting Services (TAPS) and the Adoptive and Foster Family
Coalition of New York, offer support groups for transracial adoptive
families.</p>
<ol start="4">
<li><p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">Anti-racism resources:</p>
</li></ol>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">Non-Black parents can use anti-racism
resources to learn about and combat racism and discrimination. Some
recommended resources include the Anti-Racism Daily newsletter, the
Black Lives Matter at School resources, and the Racial Equity Tools
website.</p>
<ol start="5">
<li><p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">Cultural resources:</p>
</li></ol>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">Providing Black cultural resources for
their child can help non-Black parents support their child's racial
identity and create an inclusive environment. These resources can
include books, music, movies, and toys that feature Black characters
and stories. Some organizations, such as the Brown Baby Reads book
club and Black Kids Swim, offer resources specifically for Black
children.</p>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">All in all, non-Black parents of
Black children must be proactive in seeking out resources to support
their child's racial identity and address racism and discrimination.
By educating themselves, joining support groups, and providing
cultural resources, non-Black parents can create a safe and inclusive
environment for their child and help them thrive.</p>
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</p>Helen Willishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07268925587150807113noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2325487189052252412.post-85703113930225814062023-09-27T20:39:00.001-07:002023-09-27T20:39:14.464-07:006 Tips for Raising Bilingual Children<p style="border: 1px solid #d9d9e3; padding: 0.02in;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: Tw Cen MT, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">Raising
bilingual children is a unique and rewarding experience that can
provide numerous benefits. Bilingualism can enhance cognitive
development, increase cultural awareness, and improve communication
skills. However, it also requires dedication, patience, and
consistency. In this article, we will explore some tips for raising
bilingual children and the benefits of bilingualism.</span></span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: Tw Cen MT, sans-serif;"></span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: Tw Cen MT, sans-serif;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh-77P23xHAmEchu1YqUUCciAhgjMo6pF9iupAZRAAkz7BUsxMAZuEFUgEKg8gxib9sYH_xxSGM6COSp0JUnpzPpvNjocrYT-Ijfo1Mk473ZeKLniVO8IuQDCVPgOjtH7hWTY-jX7DDuQK-ZvtPXB9W8TNtuhblplNPPwPv99nz_cDalztwXogsXM-Rf7-X/s6298/pexels-kindel-media-7978856.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="4199" data-original-width="6298" height="257" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh-77P23xHAmEchu1YqUUCciAhgjMo6pF9iupAZRAAkz7BUsxMAZuEFUgEKg8gxib9sYH_xxSGM6COSp0JUnpzPpvNjocrYT-Ijfo1Mk473ZeKLniVO8IuQDCVPgOjtH7hWTY-jX7DDuQK-ZvtPXB9W8TNtuhblplNPPwPv99nz_cDalztwXogsXM-Rf7-X/w387-h257/pexels-kindel-media-7978856.jpg" width="387" /></a></span></div><span style="font-family: Tw Cen MT, sans-serif;"><br /><span style="font-size: small;"><br /></span></span><p></p>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: Tw Cen MT, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">The
Benefits of Bilingualism:</span></span></p>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: Tw Cen MT, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">Studies
have shown that bilingualism can have numerous cognitive and social
benefits for children. Bilingual children often demonstrate advanced
problem-solving skills, enhanced creativity, and improved memory
function. Additionally, bilingualism can increase cultural awareness
and provide a broader perspective on the world. Being fluent in
multiple languages can also improve communication skills and make it
easier for children to connect with a wider range of people.</span></span></p>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: "Tw Cen MT", sans-serif; font-size: 13pt;">Tips
for Raising Bilingual Children:</span></p>
<ol>
<li><p style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: Tw Cen MT, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">Start
early: The earlier you begin exposing your child to multiple
languages, the more likely they are to become fluent in both.</span></span></p>
</li><li><p style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: Tw Cen MT, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">Speak
consistently: It is essential to consistently speak both languages
with your child to help them learn and retain the language.</span></span></p>
</li><li><p style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: Tw Cen MT, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">Provide
exposure to the language: Reading books, watching TV shows, and
listening to music in both languages can help your child become more
familiar with the language.</span></span></p>
</li><li><p style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: Tw Cen MT, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">Encourage
practice: Encourage your child to practice speaking in both
languages as much as possible. This can include conversations with
family members, friends, or taking language classes.</span></span></p>
</li><li><p style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: Tw Cen MT, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">Be
patient: Learning a language can take time, and children may switch
between languages as they learn. It is essential to be patient and
continue to provide consistent exposure to both languages.</span></span></p>
</li><li><p style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: Tw Cen MT, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">Create
a supportive environment: Provide a supportive and encouraging
environment for your child to learn and practice both languages.
This can include praising their efforts and providing positive
reinforcement.</span></span></p>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0in;"></p>
</li></ol>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: Tw Cen MT, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">Challenges
of Raising Bilingual Children:</span></span></p>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: Tw Cen MT, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">Raising
bilingual children can also present some challenges. Bilingual
children may have a slower language development process initially,
and there may be some confusion between the two languages. It is also
important to ensure that both languages are given equal importance to
avoid neglecting one language in favor of the other.</span></span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: Tw Cen MT, sans-serif;"></span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: Tw Cen MT, sans-serif;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj8uePrHglaRiolk3AeY_hqeupG0mKapWDQyomAdTjcslsoofiB1hcYvRWrwRqZKvI0i9XuxxLMPo2sWGDoxO4c5O7RQB2tDrVMFTJEZea23lKrWaC5GnlEKW1SvdiShUv5W2t7LwdvwwA3DFAmMXxNitRBNSKf1AJD_fnTWF5ceXixWWf6AvUogbwSQ5rl/s6478/pexels-kindel-media-7979755.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="6478" data-original-width="4319" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj8uePrHglaRiolk3AeY_hqeupG0mKapWDQyomAdTjcslsoofiB1hcYvRWrwRqZKvI0i9XuxxLMPo2sWGDoxO4c5O7RQB2tDrVMFTJEZea23lKrWaC5GnlEKW1SvdiShUv5W2t7LwdvwwA3DFAmMXxNitRBNSKf1AJD_fnTWF5ceXixWWf6AvUogbwSQ5rl/s320/pexels-kindel-media-7979755.jpg" width="213" /></a></span></div><span style="font-family: Tw Cen MT, sans-serif;"><br /><span style="font-size: small;"><br /></span></span><p></p>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: Tw Cen MT, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">All told, raising bilingual children can provide numerous benefits,
including enhanced cognitive development, cultural awareness, and
improved communication skills. However, it requires dedication,
patience, and consistency. By following these tips and creating a
supportive environment, parents can help their children become fluent
in multiple languages and reap the benefits of bilingualism.</span></span></p>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><br />
</p><br /><p></p>Helen Willishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07268925587150807113noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2325487189052252412.post-72903646062639026112023-04-03T21:57:00.005-07:002023-04-03T23:29:57.965-07:00How to Prepare for Challenges When Adopting Children from Different Backgrounds<p style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13pt;"></span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEilq1gxePi8RHhHuPoio8KyX5dVPn_hJ-dl_NQzBOCDtMcZHY6eM5MkUqFbo5kU0OAi3Da2orqDKK_luhmXWK_CyJVhPSP5yRTdkoiEXzasUwKMVfB6JdKMyu4Jop9Fz15jQ7Owd72qCkp4R8gqB1YqjuABqFFipNKRp0F-rnpmLe6rJUERiPTeeoXXXQ/s6720/pexels-kindel-media-7977935.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="6720" data-original-width="4480" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEilq1gxePi8RHhHuPoio8KyX5dVPn_hJ-dl_NQzBOCDtMcZHY6eM5MkUqFbo5kU0OAi3Da2orqDKK_luhmXWK_CyJVhPSP5yRTdkoiEXzasUwKMVfB6JdKMyu4Jop9Fz15jQ7Owd72qCkp4R8gqB1YqjuABqFFipNKRp0F-rnpmLe6rJUERiPTeeoXXXQ/s320/pexels-kindel-media-7977935.jpg" width="213" /></a></div><br />Adopting
a child is a life-changing decision that can bring immense joy and
fulfillment to both the adoptive parents and the child. However,
adopting a child from a different background can also pose unique
challenges and require a significant adjustment period for everyone
involved.<p></p>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">One
of the most significant challenges of adopting a child from a
different background is the potential cultural differences between
the child and their adoptive family. This can include differences in
language, religion, food, customs, and traditions. Adoptive parents
may need to learn about and integrate aspects of the child's cultural
background into their daily lives to help the child feel more
comfortable and connected to their heritage.</span></span></p>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">Language
barriers can also be a challenge, particularly if the child speaks a
different language than the adoptive parents. This can create
communication difficulties and make it challenging for the child to
express their thoughts and feelings. Adoptive parents may need to
learn the child's language or find a translator to facilitate
communication.</span></span></p>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">Another
challenge is the potential trauma that the child may have experienced
before their adoption. Children who have been adopted from different
backgrounds may have experienced abuse, neglect, or other forms of
trauma before their adoption. This can impact their emotional and
behavioral development and may require specialized support from
mental health professionals.</span></span></p>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">Furthermore,
the child may have different expectations of family relationships
than their adoptive parents. For example, in some cultures, extended
family members may play a significant role in a child's life.
Adoptive parents may need to navigate these cultural differences and
find ways to incorporate the child's cultural expectations into their
family dynamic.</span></span></p>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">Finally,
the adoptive parents may face societal prejudices or stereotypes
related to their child's background. This can include racial, ethnic,
or religious biases that can impact the child's sense of belonging
and identity. Adoptive parents must be prepared to confront these
biases and provide a safe and supportive environment for their child.</span></span></p>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">Adopting a child from a different background can be a
rewarding experience for both the child and the adoptive family.
However, it also requires a significant commitment to learning about
and incorporating the child's cultural background, addressing
potential trauma, and navigating societal biases. With patience,
understanding, and support, adoptive families can overcome these
challenges and build a loving and inclusive family.</span></span></p>Helen Willishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07268925587150807113noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2325487189052252412.post-66275053174833422942023-04-03T21:54:00.004-07:002023-04-03T21:59:13.152-07:00How to Prepare Your Children for Racist Bullying<p style="margin-bottom: 0in;"></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi7lUZ7TMNRaSTEODarZC0dhVuErzd3UuVi0GJeRwHzy2Y8YLvxKmTnkBdTR-O_SrRi_AoDzoeeBRknlNPAVErLKLl8v2WUJMaAn-2Vwf-oMLb5cZltpQb534fO81JrGz2Lh-WRKM4wTma6CEzlBKQYmZsByc3AvVoOty7j27OssRL70DfbHALnCjckCg/s5903/pexels-rodnae-productions-8363129.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="5903" data-original-width="3935" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi7lUZ7TMNRaSTEODarZC0dhVuErzd3UuVi0GJeRwHzy2Y8YLvxKmTnkBdTR-O_SrRi_AoDzoeeBRknlNPAVErLKLl8v2WUJMaAn-2Vwf-oMLb5cZltpQb534fO81JrGz2Lh-WRKM4wTma6CEzlBKQYmZsByc3AvVoOty7j27OssRL70DfbHALnCjckCg/s320/pexels-rodnae-productions-8363129.jpg" width="213" /></a></div><br />Racist bullying is a sad reality that
many children have to face in today's society. As a parent, it's
essential to prepare your children to face racism and bullying with
resilience, confidence, and self-assurance. While it's challenging to
see your child suffer from such acts, there are several ways you can
prepare your children for racist bullying.<p></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">Start by having honest conversations
about race and racism. Children are observant and may notice
differences in skin color or features, and it's crucial to address
these differences and explain why they should be celebrated rather
than ridiculed. Talk about how racism can hurt and how people who
behave in a racist manner are often doing so out of ignorance or
fear.</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">Encourage your children to speak up if
they witness racism, and teach them how to do so respectfully and
assertively. Practice role-playing scenarios to help your child build
their confidence in speaking up, and encourage them to approach a
trusted adult if they ever feel threatened or unsafe.</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">Teach your child to celebrate their
heritage and culture, and encourage them to be proud of who they are.
Children who feel confident and secure in their identity are less
likely to be affected by racist comments or bullying.</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">It's also crucial to teach your
children about empathy and compassion. Explain that bullies often
behave in this way because they are unhappy, hurt, or feel powerless
in some way. Encourage your child to think about why someone might be
bullying them and to try and understand their situation, rather than
immediately responding with anger or retaliation.</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">Teach your child self-care techniques
to help them manage stress and anxiety. Encourage them to engage in
activities that bring them joy, such as art or sports, and ensure
they have a support system in place that they can turn to if they
need help.</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">Finally, it's essential to model the
behaviors you want your child to exhibit. Be a positive role model by
embracing diversity and advocating for social justice. Speak up
against racism, and show your child that you're willing to take
action to make the world a more just and equitable place.</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">In conclusion, preparing your child for
racist bullying is about empowering them to confront racism with
confidence, resilience, and empathy. By having honest conversations,
teaching self-care techniques, and modeling positive behaviors, you
can help your child navigate the challenges of racism and bullying
with grace and strength. Remember, your child is not alone, and with
your support, they can thrive and grow into a resilient, confident,
and compassionate person.</p><p style="border: 1px solid #d9d9e3; padding: 0.02in;">
</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0in;"></p>Helen Willishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07268925587150807113noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2325487189052252412.post-19494459813506929722023-04-03T18:50:00.003-07:002023-04-03T21:53:03.967-07:00Exploring the Benefits & Challenges of Raising a Multiracial Family<p style="margin-bottom: 0in;"></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgP9J8V-YKJqAZIHtVMzwkruJnwu3EqLg5cXK7DXFykN8Tva7vwa_y3_aIL5_RZRJiQdFUBdLry-1UHzoT7Lg0yrL6IvhkJGy5W8BcX1F7xA6QcG9h0vsR6X-rfaTHOfcQw5sz1bUHrrht49u2j0eeRZOyKJtmXZRILDGhfgTI86BPh531D2Q7wenacOA/s6720/pexels-monstera-5063110.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="4480" data-original-width="6720" height="213" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgP9J8V-YKJqAZIHtVMzwkruJnwu3EqLg5cXK7DXFykN8Tva7vwa_y3_aIL5_RZRJiQdFUBdLry-1UHzoT7Lg0yrL6IvhkJGy5W8BcX1F7xA6QcG9h0vsR6X-rfaTHOfcQw5sz1bUHrrht49u2j0eeRZOyKJtmXZRILDGhfgTI86BPh531D2Q7wenacOA/s320/pexels-monstera-5063110.jpg" width="320" /></a></div><br />In today's increasingly diverse world,
multiracial families are becoming more common. A multiracial family
is one that includes members from two or more different racial or
ethnic backgrounds. While these families can offer many benefits,
they can also present unique challenges. In this article, we will
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<p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">Benefits of a Multiracial Family</p>
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<li><p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">Cultural Diversity: One of the
most significant benefits of a multiracial family is the cultural
diversity it offers. Members of the family can learn about different
languages, customs, traditions, and values, which can broaden their
horizons and help them appreciate different perspectives.</p>
</li><li><p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">Exposure to Different Foods: With
different cultures come different foods. Members of a multiracial
family can enjoy trying new cuisines and exploring the flavors of
different cultures.</p>
</li><li><p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">Building Resilience: Multiracial
families face unique challenges that can help build resilience in
family members. Children in multiracial families learn to navigate
different cultural expectations and develop an ability to relate to
people from different backgrounds.</p>
</li><li><p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">Increased Tolerance: Living in a
multiracial family can increase tolerance and understanding towards
different racial and ethnic groups. Family members learn to
appreciate and respect different cultures, which can lead to more
acceptance and harmony in society.</p>
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<p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">Challenges of a Multiracial Family</p>
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<li><p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">Discrimination: Sadly,
discrimination and racism still exist in society. Multiracial
families may face prejudice from people who do not understand or
accept their diverse family makeup.</p>
</li><li><p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">Communication: Communication can
be a challenge in a multiracial family if different languages are
spoken. Family members may need to learn each other's languages to
communicate effectively.</p>
</li><li><p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">Cultural Differences: Each culture
has its customs, traditions, and values. It may be challenging for
family members to adapt to these differences and find common ground.</p>
</li><li><p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">Identity: Children in multiracial
families may struggle with their identity and sense of belonging.
They may feel torn between different cultural expectations and
struggle to find their place in the world.</p>
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<p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">All things considered, a multiracial
family offers many benefits, including cultural diversity, exposure
to different foods, building resilience, and increased tolerance.
However, it also presents unique challenges, such as discrimination,
communication barriers, cultural differences, and issues with
identity. It is essential to address these challenges and celebrate
the benefits that a multiracial family can offer. Ultimately, a
multiracial family can be a beautiful and unique unit that celebrates
diversity and promotes understanding and acceptance.</p>
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</p>Sincerely,
Helen Willis, The ZebressHelen Willishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07268925587150807113noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2325487189052252412.post-73981827886025349412017-02-17T22:24:00.000-08:002017-02-23T11:01:06.560-08:00Speed Dating...Just Not the Kind That You Think<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Dating advice is usually given to, reserved for and requested by women. I have seen it all, what I rarely see is dating advice for men. Why? Because men do not seek dating advice, and if they do it's not usually from a reliable source. They need to rethink this strategy or lack thereof. It tends to be women who are usually portrayed as the ones who rush in relationships, who get attached too soon, and who plan the wedding on the first date. But in case anyone thinks that men do not behave this way as well, I'm here to tell you that they do. I'll give you two examples of guys I came across recently...<br />
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Now I "met" them both online but, from my personal experience, what I'm about to say is not exclusive to online guys. These guys are from different races (one's black, the other is white), similar ages (5 years apart), different economic backgrounds (one is a stockbroker, the other works for sanitation) and family situations (one is divorced, 2 kids; the other never married, no kids).<br />
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Guy number one. I spoke to him for the first time on a Sunday, nice convo, okay...it was going well. By Tuesday he was saying that I seemed like I was "too busy" because I we hadn't spoken enough..TUESDAY...TWO DAYS. This was the same guy who asked me about my future plans and I said, ideally I would like to spend half the year in New York and the other half, preferably the winter, on an island like Turks and Caicos. His response? But I have two kids, I can't just pick up and leave for half the year. Dead serious. I'm like, What???? Who the hell was talking about you?? That's not what I said, but that's exactly what I was thinking. Listen, it's nice for a man to picture the future but, maybe we can wait until we actually meet? This scares me. Needless to say, we didn't go any further.<br />
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Guy number two. I spoke to him once on the phone...eh, but I thought he was okay enough to keep in mind. TWO DAYS LATER, the phone rings, I didn't recognize the number and don't normally answer these types of calls but I was expecting a call from a new dentist. So I pick up the phone and say "Hello?" The voice says "Hi." I say "Hi" and I wait for a beat expecting the person to tell me who it is, what this is about, you know the normal stuff that happens when once person calls another. He said nothing, so I say, "I think you might have the wrong number." I hung up the phone and went on with my life. The next day he texted me asking why I told him it was the wrong number. I said, "Oh! That was you?" I apologized and said, "You didn't say anything." I later came the conclusion that he was expecting me to know his voice or at least have his number saved in my phone, neither applied. So instead of playing it cool he says,"I thought you would have my number saved. You didn't even look to see what the number was after you hung up?" Dead serious. Umm okay, I wasn't going to go there with a virtual stranger, literally, but, before I could respond, he texts, "Let's move on. How is your day?" Okay, we'd been chatting with one another for a week, spoke once, and had not met in person. So no, I pretty much forgot about the caller <i>as </i>I was hanging up the phone. I'm moving on alright. I had to check the calendar to make sure a month hadn't past and I wasn't aware of it.<br />
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But before you dismiss these as crazy Internet guys, this has happened to me IRL as well. I've had plenty of guys stop talking to me because I didn't choose them or some other pansy ass thing that didn't happen. Here's a good example. I met a guy at church, we talked, he gave me his card to give him a call. I wasn't that into him but I was going to give him a chance. But then I lost his card...no, for real. I saw him again in church and noticed he was giving me shade. I looked past it and spoke to him and tried to explain that I lost his card, he wasn't feeling it. I asked him if he had another one, he said "No" and stormed off. Lol I can't. And I was shaded like this by an NFL player ex, a barber ex, a neighbor or three, that guy from high school... I could go on.<br />
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And what's with these guys who like to text you at 6 o'clock in the morning?<br />
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So all of this "date like a man" hullabaloo needs to stop. I know the idea works in theory but, to apply it exclusively to men is just wrong. More often than not, I have "dated like a man" (minus the casual sex part, if that's even true) only this is not what I thought I was doing, it just made dating sense to me. And while all of this stuff about women who are needy and clingy and rush in relationships may be true...you've got <strike>some </strike>many men who are doing the exact same thing. Stop it.<br />
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Sincerely,<br />
Helen Willis,<br />
The Zebress</div>
Helen Willishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07268925587150807113noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2325487189052252412.post-67709872704500817732017-02-12T21:05:00.003-08:002017-02-12T22:03:56.618-08:00Are the Police Racist?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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I read this 2015 <a href="https://www.washingtonpost.com/graphics/national/police-shootings/" target="_blank">p</a>ost about police shootings written by the Washington Post. I was shocked to discover that during that year, the majority of those who were unfortunately shot and killed by the police were white males. I won't go into rewriting facts that have already been researched, I will just provide you with the information you may need to draw your own conclusions and answer the question...are the police racist?</div>
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Helen Willishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07268925587150807113noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2325487189052252412.post-48573413454299426312017-01-28T15:33:00.005-08:002017-02-03T15:23:26.575-08:00Welcome Back, Serena!<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Helen Willishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07268925587150807113noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2325487189052252412.post-76947558458957752992017-01-24T12:53:00.000-08:002017-02-03T15:22:24.953-08:00The Angry Black Woman's Top 10<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Now, I, Helen Willis, am not an angry black woman nor have I ever been accused of being one. But if I were indeed and angry black woman, it might be because:<br />
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1. People often consider me last when it comes to beauty, but first when it comes to imitation.<br />
2. I can go to Princeton <i>and</i> Harvard, be a stellar mom, a supportive wife, and the First Lady of the United States and still be called "ghetto" and other offensive names, for no reason.<br />
3. People are always obsessed with what my hair is doing or <i>not </i>doing.<br />
4. When I have a child as a single person I'm trash, but when it comes to women from other ethnic backgrounds it's "unfortunate" or a "mistake."<br />
5. When <i>some </i>men from any ethnicity see me, especially black men, they think it's okay to talk to me in any manner.<br />
6. I am sexualized and objectified more often than any other female; usually by black men.<br />
7. Other black women who should be my allies are more like my enemies and most of them don't even know me.<br />
8. The stats always put me last in everything positive and first in everything negative.<br />
9. I am often paid less for doing the same jobs as others, male or female, that is if I get the job in the first place.<br />
10. Black women who contribute to any negative image black women may have are considered the archetype for every black woman rather than just being a product of her environment, her own values and intentions, and how she was raised.<br />
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So no I'm not angry, because I know I am blessed, but if I was, I think these might be good reasons as to why. Let me know if you have more to add to this list. Blessings.<br />
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Sincerely,<br />
Helen Willis, The Zebress</div>
Helen Willishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07268925587150807113noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2325487189052252412.post-91528957159881060262016-12-19T23:18:00.002-08:002016-12-19T23:48:40.587-08:00Blackish Episode "Bow-Racial"<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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This is Tracee Ellis-Ross from the very funny and socially conscious show, "Blackish" in case you didn't know. I love this show, hated the name but I got over it. Spoiler alert! In case you haven't seen it. Stop reading and watch it, then meet me back here and I'll be waiting for you.</div>
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The episode this post is about is "Bow-racial." In this episode the mom, Rainbow, confronts her issues with identity when her son brings home his white girlfriend. Rainbow, who is often referred to as "Bow" in this series has to face her demons about growing up biracial. She, like other directly biracial people, expressed how she always felt the pressure to fit in with either whites or blacks. She recalled how she felt she had to consistently conform to what she her version of each group. When she was in high school she hung around with white girls who were very "valley" so she became "valley." In college she hung with black women who were 90s hip hop-ish, so that's who she felt she had to be. She lamented that she never "fit in" with either group. As I said, she is not the first biracial person to have said this. </div>
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I feel for biracial people. I hate that they feel like they have to chose a side. When I was in grade school and high school, I had classmates of all hues and not one time did I feel like I had to be anyone other than who I was. I am not directly biracial; I am the product of different ethnicities; Hebrew (black), American Indian, Creole, and Dominican. If I were biracial though, I would tell anyone who has a problem with it where to go and how they can go about getting there. I would like to be biracial just so I can say that. On the show, a little girl Bow asked her black teacher which racial box she should choose on some form and the black teacher told her to check black. Well she said, "Girl, you betta check black!" Later in the episode she went to her white father and asked his opinion, he told her that she was a black woman. This shocked Rainbow and she questioned her father as to how he could say this when it virtually cut him out of her existence. He said because that's how the world sees her. That's a cool, selfless message but, I don't think it's ever a good idea to let "the world" define who you are; I thought that was your parents job. Is this what interracial parents have to tell their kids? I think Rainbow was born in the 70s so maybe they didn't have the luxury of being who they were back then they way biracial kids do now. I don't know. My younger brother is biracial but he has always identified as black. I don't think he has ever given it a second thought in his 18 years of life, if he has he's never mentioned it.</div>
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His argument is,"Well, I am just as much white as I am black." I love that because it's a truth people hate to hear for some reason. If you own 50% of a company, you own it just as much as anyone else. Why deny it? To make someone else more comfortable by placing you where they think you belong? When you do this, you are just following the "<a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/One-drop_rule" target="_blank">One drop rule</a>" without any prompting. How long are we going to subconsciously follow these slave mandates? It's insane. And then if you don't "look mixed" then you get a different kind of shade. There was a comedian, Phyllis Yvonne Stickney,</div>
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I remember this joke she told on a comedy program. Basically, she said she met a woman who was black and Japanese and who told Stickney her ethnic makeup. It was implied that this woman did not "look" like she had a Japanese father, so Stickney said she should have brought her father with her so that people would believe she was biracial. Of course, the delivery was a little different than my retelling here but you get the gist. Here again, it's about pleasing people. I know it's a joke but we all know people think this way. They think there's a certain way you're supposed to look when you're biracial. Because the mixture has to combine in the right percentages to make people feel comfortable labeling someone, right? I can't even.</div>
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And hey, my children may be biracial because, y'all know how I get down. But I plan on adopting, when I do, I have always wanted to have a family like Josephine Baker's, the original multi-ethnic mama, maybe not that big of a family, but the same idea. I won't go out of my way to search for kids by color but if the opportunity is there, I will take it. Like my pastor says of our multi-ethnic church, "This must be what heaven looks like." It may not be for everybody but, I feel like it's for me. But I also think everyone should at least intimately know someone who looks different than themselves. It opens up your world in ways you might not expect. Personally, I wouldn't have it any other way. It's easier to dispel myths and destroy lies that way too. And my kids, I will teach them to be proud of who they are and surround themselves with people whom they can connect with by interest and activity. Those who appreciate them for who they are and not what color their skin happens to be. Maybe this is easier said than done but really, it shouldn't be. Check all the boxes! Let them deal with their own demons. Good show though, check it out.</div>
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Helen Willis, The Zebress</div>
Helen Willishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07268925587150807113noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2325487189052252412.post-85767395838307184502016-11-30T21:32:00.001-08:002016-11-30T21:34:03.686-08:00Random Thoughts on "Random Thoughts by Damon Young of Very Smart Brothas"<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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So a few days ago I wrote a blog post that referenced a video posted by Matthew Hussey on You Tube <a href="http://zebratalesbyhelenwillis.blogspot.com/2016/11/sigh.html" target="_blank">Who Should Pay on a First Date, Matthew Hussey?</a> It was a reflection on my thoughts on chivalry and the notion supported and encouraged by so-called dating experts like Matthew Hussey.</div>
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But as what often happens, I got a response to my questions on this topic and I hadn't even voiced them. Two days after I posted the Matthew Hussey article, I picked up the September 2016 issue of Ebony magazine and read a column. It was written by an awesome gentleman by the name of Damon Young of Very Smart Brothas. Mr. Young, turns out, totally supported everything I said. </div>
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I'm glad to know that Matthew Hussey and anyone who agrees with him are the exceptions and not the rule. And to the men I mentioned in my last post who provide great advice, Dr. Phil McGraw, Bishop TD Jakes and Steve Harvey, I can add a new name to the list. Damon Young, you are indeed a "very smart brotha." All the best to you.</div>
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Helen Willishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07268925587150807113noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2325487189052252412.post-13515394688792718772016-11-25T20:39:00.000-08:002016-11-30T21:35:58.498-08:00Who Should Pay on a First Date, Matthew Hussey?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Sigh.....I like Matthew Hussey, I do. I have been following him on You Tube for a bit. I was on the fence about him because he's not married and I tend not to take advice from people who haven't arrived where I wish to go. Would you take financial advice from a homeless person?<br />
I was on the fence about Matthew after watching his video about the things never to say to a guy.<br />
I found them to be a bit trivial and when I read the comments I saw that there were men and women who agreed with me. Most of the men who commented said that Matthew gives advice for women attracted to "beta" males. I was relieved this was the popular opinion of the men because I've always been attracted to "alphas."<br />
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That being said, I watched this video thinking this will tell me all I need to know about Mr. Hussey. First, it was labeled "Who should pay on the first date?" but the question asked was "Should a woman pay for a dinner date after four or five months of dating a man?" These are two different scenarios that likely made this question difficult to answer in the first place. It seemed like Mr. Hussey tried to answer them both at the same time.<br />
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Long story short, he felt like a woman should split the bill on the first date and maybe subsequent dates as well. Some comments were for, some were against. The "like" button seemed to indicate that most people were in agreement with Matthew. To me, this is not surprising given the status of relationships these days and the predominant type of man available (see my post on Sebastion Maniscalco's take on the modern man). I happened to notice the couple who live next door to me.<br />
The man was walking behind his wife as she was carrying a big bag of garbage to the trash. Ummm ok. Then I noticed another guy leaning on the hood of his car talking to a woman while she was raking leaves. Ugh, I don't know about you but this kind of stuff is a turn-off, big time. And people like to blame it all on the feminists and men looove to bark about woman's equality, but only in this case. For my vote, at home, you can negotiate your life as the two of you see fit, it's nobody's business. How many times do men mention they love a woman who can cook? Should this be an insult? I don't think it is. Then again, I can cook. Some men, like Hussey, and maybe women even associate a man paying for dinner a form of "prostitution." Wow. To equate buying dinner with sex is insulting and one sooo does not equal the other. Seems like Hussey is the one who has been "taught wrong." How old is this guy anyway?<br />
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My take? I'm glad you asked. I always say, when a man is robbed of the opportunity to be a man, he won't be one. For the love of Yah, I wish people would understand that paying for dinner is not about the money, it tells me whether or not you are or have the mindset to be my provider, my protector, my safe place, someone I can depend on. I am not your best bud, I will be more than that and offer you things<i> I hope</i> your best bud would never dream of. If you are serious about find love and not just finding some available tail. When a woman feels a man becomes all of these things, there is nothing he will want that she won't provide. Men think it's about being superficial, no we want to know that we are worth the effort. That we can depend on you. This is a good start.<br />
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I have to add, as a woman, I never ask a man to take me anywhere, but if he asked me out, he should pay. If I ask him to go somewhere with me, that's on me. Now don't get me wrong, I will contribute. When I went to my dates home for the first time, on our fourth date, I brought dessert, drinks, and snacks for his kids because he was making dinner. Then when I invited him to my place, I made a lobster dinner. He is from Naples, Italy and before Matthew I was under the impression that, generally speaking, European men have this old-school mentality that I love, the ones I've dated do. Apparently, that's not the norm.<br />
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And look, broke guys need love too right? jk. Seriously if money is an issue for you, find a more creative way to get to know your date. Try and be more creative...frozen yogurt, a picnic in the park or on the beach. If a woman does not appreciate this she might be superficial or at the very least immature. No one asked you to break the bank and if they do run for the hills. The truth is guys these days seem to be looking for ways to get in and get out as fast as they can (no pun intended) with the least amount of effort. If we are honest, this is what all of this is really about. And some women expect the least amount of everything making men think that this is the norm.<br />
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In our hook-up obsessed, sex on the first date society, people forget that dating is supposed to be a precursor for marriage. And marriages these days rarely work. I didn't say it, the stats do. Something is going terribly wrong. There's a reason why marriages are failing if they happen at all. Maybe, it's because people like Matthew Hussey are telling everyone that relationships are a "free for all." And what do you know, they like it. Sure if you want a hook up then yeah, you might get annoyed if you have to keep shelling out your hard-earned money for a series of booty calls.<br />
But real men, take a page out of "Sleepless in Seattle" when Tom Hanks' character said he could never ask a woman to pay for dinner and Rob Reiner's character said that women would "throw a parade" in his honor. Don't you want to be that guy? I would. Let me make clear, I'm only addressing and am willing to entertain the men<i> interested</i> in real relationships.<br />
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Look, Matthew is cute (he hates that), I think this is the reason women listen to him in the first place. That's why I did. I like his laugh and his accent is super adorable (he hates that too). But he should stick to decoding male behavior, I think that works best for him. As for me, I think I will stick to taking advice about men from married alpha, Christian men like Dr. Phil, Bishop T.D. Jakes, maybe even Steve Harvey; men who seem to know how to successfully manage a relationship with a woman. Cheers.<br />
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Check out the update to this post:<br />
<a href="http://zebratalesbyhelenwillis.blogspot.com/2016/11/random-thoughts-on-random-thoughts-by.html" target="_blank">Random Thoughts on Random Thoughts by Damon Young of Very Smart Brothas</a><br />
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Helen Willishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07268925587150807113noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2325487189052252412.post-4405030377891520122016-11-23T10:52:00.004-08:002016-11-23T10:54:12.839-08:00Loving Movie<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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I'm well familiar with the story of the Lovings (how cool is that last name?), it's a beautiful and inspiring love story. If you haven't seen their story before, this movie looks like it is well done and I urge you to go see it. Particularly if you have an interracial family but especially if you don't.<br />
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Sincerely, Helen Willis, The Zebress</div>
Helen Willishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07268925587150807113noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2325487189052252412.post-82381876800313739682016-10-28T23:11:00.000-07:002016-11-01T00:18:26.183-07:00Black Jeopardy<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Okay, so I can take a joke, I think. I was hesitant to watch this video but I love Tom Hanks so I thought it couldn't be too bad. And I was right it was somewhat funny. I know my enthusiasm is underwhelming. It may not surprise you that I couldn't relate to most of the jokes. But my issue is not really with the jokes at all. It's with this skit being called, "Black Jeopardy." Not because it was offensive but because the references seemed "ghetto" or low class to me. All the "sista girl" neck rolling and "umm hum"-ming to the prize of car window duct tape. This just reinforces the idea of too many people, of all races including black people, that "black" and "ghetto" are interchangeable. This underscores the idea that there is only one type of black person and those outside of this parameter are pretending to be something they are not.<br />
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For example, many people black and otherwise consider August Wilson to be one of the greatest playwrights of his time. However, I was majorly disappointed when watching an interview of the "Fences" writer. The interviewer asked him to share his thoughts on, "The Cosby Show," which was a hit at the time of the interview. August said that black people like it but they know it's not real because and I quote, "black people don't act like that." He was reminded of a dining experience he once had. He said he observed a Japanese family having dinner at a restaurant. He mentioned how quiet and polite they were. He went on to say the waitress came and they paid the bill and left. He said something to the effect of, had that been a black family, they would have been a lot rowdier. They would have been snatching food off each other's plates, hitting on the waitress, laughing, snapping on each other, etc. My mother would have had my head if I or my siblings behaved that way in a restaurant or anywhere else for that matter. And we wonder why some people react to black people the way they do when this is the type of stuff they hear black people saying about themselves? Here's something else, someone, who I suspect was not black, even called first lady Michelle Obama "ghetto garbage" when she did the rap skit about staying in school with another SNL cast member.<br />
A Princeton and Harvard-educated lawyer, mother, wife, philanthropist and first lady of the free world. Ghetto garbage? Really?<br />
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Here's another interesting story I saw a remark from a white woman who commented on an unfortunate video. I will describe it to you. A white woman, not the commenter I mentioned above, was in a relationship with a black thug from one of our great American states, I forget which one.<br />
This woman ended up dead and the story was about the detectives putting the clues together to solve the crime. Turns out, it was the thug who had killed her. Someone commented on this video, " See that's why white girls shouldn't get involved with ghetto trash." A white woman in a TMI moment commented to this person,"Well, I don't agree. My husband is black, we have been married for x amount of years, we have three kids and he hasn't killed me yet lol." Okay, so I'm just going to ignore the last part of ignorance in her comment, that's probably an argument to include in another topic. But those of you who get where I'm going already know the problem I have with this statement. First, I won't speak ill of the dead but to say they must have had something in common. I suppose it didn't occur to anyone that this particular white woman must have been ghetto herself. But also, to the secondary poster, no one said anything about "black" in the initial comment. The statement was about a "ghetto" person who happened to be black in this horrible story. Now if her husband is a ghetto black man then she should have made that distinction. But given her description of him, it was hard to tell.<br />
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So back to the SNL skit. I read a few of those comments as well and those who saw themselves reflected in these characters were quick to remark things like, "See? We are not as different as we think!" My question is, to whom is this "we" referring? Those who were more like me saw a parallel they drew between ghetto black people and the white rednecks in this skit. And that there is a bigger disparity between classes and education than there is simply between one race to another. I did notice that Sasheer Zamata who played "Keeley" had trouble staying in "ghetto" mode. I don't watch much SNL and I have only seen one or two skits of "Black Jeopardy," but perhaps, "Ghetto Jeopardy" would be a more accurate title going forward. I'm sure they'll get right on that.<br />
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Helen Willishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07268925587150807113noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2325487189052252412.post-78832326201427165392016-10-03T14:44:00.000-07:002016-10-03T14:44:08.143-07:00What's Happened to Men? Sebastian Maniscalco<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Helen Willishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07268925587150807113noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2325487189052252412.post-24224561286248693622016-10-02T18:43:00.000-07:002016-10-02T18:43:03.591-07:00A Black Girl Was Asked Why She ‘Talks White’ You Wont Expect Her Answer - Ernestine Johnson <div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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This was very thought provoking and I hope others learn from it. My only comment is that I hear this being said often by eloquent black people. I cannot relate because I have rarely, if ever, heard any of these comments from a <em>Caucasian</em> person (and yes, I consider myself an eloquent black person). </div>
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Helen Willishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07268925587150807113noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2325487189052252412.post-7942633258776736582016-09-19T22:52:00.000-07:002016-09-19T22:52:16.527-07:00How Black is Black? And Who Gets to Decide?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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So I was doing research on interracial couples on Youtube and I found Rob and Ro's video, they are the interracial couple form Newlyweds the first year, Season 3. I think they are super cute.<br />
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There was a comment that happens to be the first one that was mostly negative. Now I don't like to be that person who bypasses the majority favorable comment to harp on the negative one. And if I were Rob or Ro, I probably wouldn't but I'm not so I will. <br />
The poster accused Rob of only [marrying] Ro because she " talks stereotypically white and has white interests." She later tried to say she said Ro talks "valley" as if none of us could see the comment that was still there. Ro addressed her nicely by saying something to the effect of, some people actually have the audacity to participate in interests that they like, no matter what "color" they may be. This comment was spicy enough for her I guess. But this is an example of self-segregating that many black people love to do. Let's say I like classical music, which I do, and a white person told me that I was not allowed to like classical music because I am black. That would be a problem, can we agree? But there are black people who say that very thing and go as far as to say, I'm trying to be something I am not by liking classical music. What am I? Do they know? Or is that my choice?<br />
And what is my designated "black" hobby or interest? Do you see how dumb that sounds?<br />
"Talking white" is another favorite. How white is talking white? Does Katie Couric talk white enough? Because she doesn't sound like a valley girl to me. What about Hillary Clinton?<br />
How should a black woman talk? Like Alicia Keys? Cookie from Empire? I have a question, was I supposed to hate "Boo Boo Kitty" because of the way she acted and looked? I was never real sure. Never mind, I didn't make it past the first season.<br />
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Anyway, this poster criticized Ro for not sounding more like Michelle Obama. An articulate, black woman who does not "talk white." So we should all speak like Michelle Obama. Got it. I'll email Ro right away. Or should we just allow people to express themselves in a manner that suits them best and is fitting with the type of person they are and want to become? Yeah, let's do that. She went on to say that Rob would not be getting any "brownie points" because he was f**ing a black woman. Charming. I'm not sure who gives out the brownie points and what they can be exchanged for but I do know that Rob is doing more than having sex with Ro. She is his wife, the mother of his new baby and this poster sounds like an idiot. I'm done with her.<br />
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Others say that most white men date "light-skinned" black women. Youtube videos can chop this nonsense down to size too. What else? Eve and her white step kids? Well, the man she married had kids before they met. And their mother is white. So maybe now that they are married, Eve can send his kids away so they can look a little better. Eve is outnumbered so she needs to level the playing field right? Ridiculous. <br />
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Maybe Eve is secretly trying to turn white, she does tend to have blonde hair after all. Meanwhile, the majority of "blonde' Caucasian women are not really blonde but no one accuses them of anything.<br />
They straighten their hair, no one bats an eye. They tan, get butt implants and lip injections.<br />
All features that most attribute to black women. There are some Caucasian who don't "talk white," oh excuse me, "valley" but no one even knows who they are. And by the way, there are people who say that black women most of the above to appeal to Caucasian men. I argue that if a Caucasian man wanted a Caucasian woman, I'm sure he would know where to find one. Blonde hair, white-talking and all. Most of the Caucasian men who date and marry "black" women do so because...wait for it...they actually like them. They marry them because they love them. Perhaps it is because of their skin tone (I mean what's not to love?) or perhaps it is just because of who they are. <br />
Why is that so mindboggling?<br />
Yah bless Rob and Ro and daughter, Eve and family, Jamie and Nikki and all others like us.<br />
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Now, I'm not going to pretend that I heard everything Ms. Dash has said but I do agree with her about BET and Black History Month. She gets a lot of flack, my position is always that she has the right to her opinion. Anytime a black person goes against what is perceived to be the "black grain" he or she is labeled "anti-black." Whether Stacey is or not I have no idea. But what I do know is that I agree that in this new millennium black people should handle these matters in a different way. I know these and other mediums were created out of necessity and maybe frustration that our voices, talents, and contributions were being excluded. That is not to say that the need is no longer valid. However, using terms that alienate others is not helpful to our cause. I think a more subtle approach will do more than a statement of separation does.<br />
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I hate terms like "black neighborhood" and "black movie or TV show." "Black church" annoys me every time I hear it. Because in theory, when there exists a "white neighborhood" and a "white church," there shouldn't be a problem right? (And I know these terms are used just as much) <br />
So when a black person moves into a predominately white neighborhood and is told to get out. Should the correct reaction be, "Well it <em>is</em> a white person's neighborhood. Let's pack our stuff?" <br />
Think about it. It's almost like reversed psychology and some black people are falling right into the trap. This goes back to black people being American, just American, and to that end we deserve the same rights as being said American.<br />
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Offense is just as powerful as defense. I want to see black history <em>included</em> in our educational materials not an aside for a month. The shortest month of the year at that. No, Black history belongs <em>in the text</em>. Black history <em>is</em> American history. It should be celebrated every month. As should everyone else's history who contributed to this great nation. We need to make sure that is the case. That's what we need to fight for in this decade and those to come.<br />
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I won't say that BET doesn't need to exist. In fact, I think it <em>needs</em> to exist. But imagine for a moment if the network was called, the "XYZ Network," and 90% of their programming featured black artists and 10% featured non-black artists (which BET seems to be doing these days). Would anyone dare say, "Why do you feature so many black people?" And if one did ask that rude question, the answer could in turn be, "Why not?" How many magazines feature 90% white artists and 10% non-white artists? And <em>that's </em>ok? Just par for the course? Do they call themselves "white" this or that? Nope, they don't have to and we shouldn't either. I would find that to be a more powerful position than simply throwing up "black-label" barriers. Feature whomever you want but also be welcoming to those who are sincerely interested in stories, features, and entertainment from artists and people who happen to be black. By labeling something "black" by definition the assumption is that you exclusively speak to and for black people. No one can or should try to do that, black or otherwise. This is not to say that BET has ever tried either but to the uninformed, it would appear that way. <br />
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I recall reading a recent fan letter in Ebony magazine. Maybe a year or two ago. It was from a non-black person. He said that he had just read Ebony for the first time because his favorite actor, Sam Jackson, was on the cover. I was delighted to find out he enjoyed the magazine overall. So much so that he felt compelled to write them a letter. Wouldn't we like this to always be the case? Non-black people being given the opportunity to enjoy us for being us and not feeling like a trespasser in "Blackland?" Like Ms. Dash said, "Black people need to decide what they want, do you want inclusion or separation?" If others try to exclude us we (rightfully) get angry but when we exclude ourselves, with whom should we be angry? <br />
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is a class of colored people who make a business of keeping
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the wrongs, and the hardships of the Negro race before the </span></span></span><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-style: normal;"><span style="font-weight: normal;">public.
Having learned that they are able to make a living out of
their </span></span></span><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-style: normal;"><span style="font-weight: normal;">troubles,
they have grown into the settled habit of advertising
their </span></span></span><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-style: normal;"><span style="font-weight: normal;">wrongs-partly
because they want sympathy and partly because it pays. </span></span></span><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-style: normal;"><span style="font-weight: normal;">Some
of these people do not want the Negro to lose his
grievances, </span></span></span></span><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-style: normal;"><span style="font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;">because
they do not want to lose their jobs.”- Booker T. Washington</span><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times, serif;">.</span></span><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times, serif;"></span></span><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times, serif;"></span></span><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times, serif;"></span>
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Helen Willis, The Zebress</div>
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Helen Willishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07268925587150807113noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2325487189052252412.post-87148777932170647082016-01-21T20:23:00.000-08:002016-01-24T17:47:42.832-08:00Teen Vogue:Things Black Girls are Tired of Hearing ft. Amandla Stenberg <div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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I have never heard many of these statements. I've had braids, weaves, wigs, my natural hair up to my chin and now down my back. People have thought I many be of more than one ethnicity and no one has ever measured my nose. People have called me "pretty" just pretty. So I cannot relate to most of the comments and I ain't a kid. My teen years are long gone. But the few comments I have heard came from black people which I'm going to assume were not the audience to whom the speakers of this video were addressing. I have a story. I had a black guy see me through the salon window, come into the salon, inquire about my marital status and asked me if I was mixed all while the stylist is blowing my hair out. I said no. He said I had to be mixed "with something" because and I quote, "Black women don't have hair like that." "Fool, didn't I just tell you I wasn't mixed?!"<br />
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Anyway, curiosity about the variety of beautiful, versatile hair textures on black women (note I didn't say "black hair") is not a bad thing in my opinion. Some white people have not experienced this type of diversity in their environments. It's like when we were kids. If you are a black woman, you can remember touching your white friend's hair out of curiosity. I know I do. There are white kids who may not have known any black kids growing up so there is a curiosity. When they get to high school or college they might feel more comfortable asking their non-white friend's about matters in their life. Including their hair. That's nothing to get so defensive about. If you are in a position to let a non-black person who <em>you know</em> (or a perfect stranger if you can handle that) touch your hair, I think you should. So the next time they hear ignorance about a black person's hair from other friends or family they can say, "No, my black friend so-and-so's hair is (fill in the blank)." That's how we learn. And by the way, afros are awesome! Who wouldn't want to touch them? I still touch them when I find them. And you do know white people can have afros too right? <br />
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I remember a black woman telling me that a white hair stylist wanted to know if she could do her hair so she could learn how to do other textures and cater to a more diverse clientele. The black woman got offended. I thought that was dumb.<br />
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I would post the video of Chael Sonnen (white man) asking Sage Steele (black woman with curly hair) if he could touch her hair but the title is too crude for my taste. But here's the summary, she leaned across the table, he touched it and was amazed at how soft it was and they went on with their interview. Ignorance annihilated. You can check it out on Youtube if you want.<br />
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And this thing about men not liking curly hair is not exclusive to "race." Patti Stanger tells her clients of every shade, (white and Latin included) that some men, of every shade, prefer straight hair because they can run their fingers through it. Other men have grown accustomed to the fact that with some women, it just ain't gonna happen and go on with their existence. So it's up to you whether or not you give two craps about that. But many, dare I say most, women of every shade can find those who straighten their hair. Even *gasp* white, Asian, and Latin ones. Ever heard of Japanese straighteners?<br />
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One of my biggest problems in dealing with negative "race" relations is when people, black, white, Latin, Asian, Pacific Islander, or multi-ethnic, don't take a minute to put themselves in someone else's shoes. Too many people make it seem like it's so hard to see (or even imagine) things from another person's perspective. It's not that difficult. Think.<br />
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Helen Willis, The Zebress</div>
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</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">Halle see what happens when you ask, </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">whoever you're dating, "Do you want to have a baby?"</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">Yeah, that never ends well.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br />
</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">All caught up? </div></div>Helen Willishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07268925587150807113noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2325487189052252412.post-13827443721275185822010-12-20T12:36:00.000-08:002010-12-20T12:36:40.477-08:00ABC Family's Greek's Amber Stevens returns for a new season<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_q18ufTQCG9Y/TQ-7_a9u57I/AAAAAAAAAg8/9qZtr1hFnak/s1600/a.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="240" n4="true" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_q18ufTQCG9Y/TQ-7_a9u57I/AAAAAAAAAg8/9qZtr1hFnak/s320/a.jpg" width="320" /></a></div>Most recently, Amber could be seen in the cheerleading movie "Fired Up." She also played a supporting role as a cheerleader in "The Fast and the Furious: Tokyo Drift." Her TV credits include "CSI" and "Complete Savages," along with an appearance on "The Late, Late Show with Craig Ferguson."<br />
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Amber's talents extend beyond acting: She's sung backup vocals on "American Idol" with such artists as Gladys Knight. She performs around L.A. and has started to record demo tracks that feature her own lyrics and vocals. In addition to her TV and film credits, she's landed national ad campaigns for Old Navy, Verizon, and Payless, and is the face of Soulmates clothing.<br />
Born and raised in Southern California, Amber graduated from Beverly Hills High School as Student Body President. She's very close to her younger sister, who she considers her best friend. In her spare time, Amber enjoys writing music, cooking, and spending time with her family and her dog.<br />
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They co-star off camera and fans will see real life couple Amber Stevens and her boyfriend Andrew West on-camera as well. West spoke about his five-episode run on the hit show and dropped a hint about his new project, Rockville, CA, while Stevens chimed in as they cuddled and looked impossibly attractive last Sunday at the 19th Annual Night of 100 Stars Oscar party at the Beverly Hills Hotel. <br />
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Wife of Tight End Ryan Neufeld, 7-year veteran with Dallas, Jacksonville, Buffalo <br />
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College sweethearts Dawn and Ryan have been married for 10 years and are the parents of two children. Their first child Will has been diagnosed with the symptoms of autism, but is loving and responsive. Their daughter Bryn is two and is every bit a young woman, often prancing around in Mommies high heeled-shoes. Dawn met Ryan at UCLA, and then received her law degree at UC Davis. After passing the California State Bar Exam on the first try, Dawn placed her career on hold so that her husband could play pro football, where he was able to forge a career as a backup for a handful of seasons. After his Pro Football career, the family settled in Dallas where Dawn is practicing law part-time and Ryan is trying play one more year in the upstart UFL. Dawn and Ryan are encountering hardships that pro football families surprisingly endure more often than one would think. Despite living modestly, the costs of maintaining a home, toddler and child with special needs has taken a toll on their finances. Although their financial future is uncertain, Dawn is sure about one thing: that she married the right man.Helen Willishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07268925587150807113noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2325487189052252412.post-67449739544527767662010-10-26T11:13:00.000-07:002010-10-26T11:30:15.456-07:00Mariah's Expecting a Boy!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_q18ufTQCG9Y/TMceKevzDmI/AAAAAAAAAg0/FUieQl5Qaso/s1600/mariah_carey_1177398.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" nx="true" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_q18ufTQCG9Y/TMceKevzDmI/AAAAAAAAAg0/FUieQl5Qaso/s1600/mariah_carey_1177398.jpg" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_q18ufTQCG9Y/TMcZzU4gJMI/AAAAAAAAAgw/lWzFoxqbspU/s1600/mariah_carey_1177398.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><iframe align="left" frameborder="0" marginheight="0" marginwidth="0" scrolling="no" src="http://rcm.amazon.com/e/cm?t=widgetsamazon-20&o=1&p=8&l=bpl&asins=B0042AEOG0&fc1=000000&IS2=1&lt1=_blank&m=amazon&lc1=0000FF&bc1=000000&bg1=FFFFFF&f=ifr" style="align: left; height: 245px; padding-right: 10px; padding-top: 5px; width: 131px;"></iframe></a></div><br />
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Mariah Carey is believed to be expecting a baby boy with husband Nick Cannon, and she is set to reveal further details on her pregnancy in the coming weeks. <br />
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Mariah Carey is reportedly expecting a baby boy.<br />
The pop star is yet to confirm she is pregnant despite months of speculation, but it has now been revealed she is having a son and is set to make an announcement about the pregnancy very soon.<br />
A source said: "She's having a boy, but the reason that Mariah didn't want to say anything is because she is 40, and she's superstitious. But she's going to appear on 'Oprah' and 'The View', so she's planning on making the announcement soon."<br />
The 'Touch My Body' hitmaker stopped drinking alcohol earlier this year and gained weight due to undergoing fertility treatment with the hope of having a child with her husband Nick Cannon. <br />
The source added to website Hollyybaby.com: "The fertility drugs were the reason for her weight gain earlier this year. She stopped drinking back in March or April."<br />
Mariah has continued to work despite her pregnancy, and took a tumble while performing in Singapore last month. <br />
A concertgoer said: "Dancers came immediately to help her but Mariah continued singing, she just removed her shoes. A true-blue professional. She doesn't want to disappoint the fans. Then immediately proceeded to 'Dreamlover', still barefoot." <iframe align="left" frameborder="0" marginheight="0" marginwidth="0" scrolling="no" src="http://rcm.amazon.com/e/cm?t=widgetsamazon-20&o=1&p=8&l=bpl&asins=B0041J69GK&fc1=000000&IS2=1&lt1=_blank&m=amazon&lc1=0000FF&bc1=000000&bg1=FFFFFF&f=ifr" style="align: left; height: 245px; padding-right: 10px; padding-top: 5px; width: 131px;"></iframe>Helen Willishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07268925587150807113noreply@blogger.com0